Four courageous and strong adult children of homosexual parents have recently submitted briefs to the Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals opposing homosexual “marriages.” This appellate court is considering whether to uphold one man-one woman marriage laws in Texas, Louisiana, and Mississippi. The oral arguments will be heard today in New Orleans. The four have written that growing up as children in homosexual households was neither normal nor pleasant.
Katy Faust wrote that there are “two rights” that every child shares when they arrive in this world. “First, the right to live. Second, the right to have a relationship with his/her father and mother.” (It is a matter of judicial notice that human beings come into existence from relationships between a man and a woman.) Dawn Stefanowicz said that her homosexual father was so obsessed with having sexual relations that she recalled at least one occasion when she was in high school and brought home a male classmate, both her father and his male paramour propositioned the male student for sex. (A bit like Sodom and Gomorrah, no?) B. N. Klein said that her mother and her lesbian partner disdained all heterosexual families completely, and Ms. Klein stated in her brief that she did not have any clue about the daily interactions of a husband and wife until she left her lesbian home and went into foster care. Robert Oscar Lopez said that his two lesbian mothers tried to be conscientious about his upbringing, but he became so emotionally confused that, as a teen, he became a male prostitute, and had numerous homosexual and bisexual relationships into his adulthood.
Poignantly, in her brief to the appellate court, Ms. Stefanowicz said that her life was anything but normal. She wrote in pertinent part:
You end up never having a real home. Our home environments have unique and unstable characteristics due to the presence or absence of biological parents, legal parents or guardians, and different sex partners of parents. Your childhood is divided to please the adults. Many adults — even former sex partners of a parent — feel they can talk about “where you live, who you visit, what schools you attend, which doctors you see, what medical procedures you have, what faith/religion you practice.”
Ms. Stefanowicz said that she loved her father, who died of AIDS in 1991, but also observed that he was a deeply troubled man who sexually abused both her and her twin brother, and brought countless men into the home. She further explained, “I was exposed to overt sexual activities like sodomy, nudity, pornography, group sex, sadomasochism, and the ilk,” and then added that her father would also take her “cruising” to homosexual art galleries, nude beaches, and public parks. She also expressed that her femininity was not valued at home. She wrote, “Ultimately, I was seeking his love and acceptance. [But] I was not allowed to freely question him, bring up moral arguments or hurt his feelings, or I would face long-term repercussions.”
Ms. Klein wrote the following:
While I do not believe all gays would be de facto bad parents, I know that the gay community has never in my lifetime put children first as anything other than a piece of property, a past mistake or a political tool to be dressed up and taken out as part of a dog-and-pony show to impress the well-meaning.
Ms. Klein said that she could now write the truth because her mother and her lesbian partner were both dead, and could “never hurt me again.” Mr. Lopez astutely observed that he and other children of homosexuals and lesbians feel “pain,” but it was because there is a “missing biological parent,” and not because homosexuals lacked the legal status of “marriage.” He commented that his childhood exposure to radical Roman Catholic liberation theology and talk about “the beauty of homosexual relationships” led him into years of sexual experimentation, including male prostitution. However, he further stated that it was a reunion with a long-estranged father that led to his escape from the “toxic” homosexual life. Ms. Faust differed from the other three in that she had no specific criticism of her mother and her lesbian partner, but still is urging the appellate court to uphold traditional marriage.
It was observed long ago by Tolstoy in his novel, Anna Karenina, that each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. Of course, Tolstoy was speaking about heterosexual families. I was blessed to have grown up in a loving family with a loving and kind mother and father. Both encouraged me to become a follower of the Lord Jesus at an early age, and to grow in my relationship with Him. I cannot begin to imagine the heartbreak, confusion, and pain of growing up in a home with persons in homosexual or lesbian relationships, let alone those with repeated promiscuity. In your prayers, please remember the oral arguments today at the 5th Circuit Court of Appeals and the subsequent deliberations by the justices, and please also pray for the children of those who grow up in homosexual and lesbian households. Jesus warns us in Matthew 18:6, that “whoso shall cause one of these little ones who believe in Me to fall, it were better for him that a millstone were hung about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.” That is, sadly, true for heterosexual parents, but truer for “parents” in homosexual and lesbian relationships as those are inherently sinful and abnormal relationships. There, I said it.